I started writing bullet points for a “letter to my younger self” and realised a lot of the points I was making/ advice I was giving could be generalised to some people who are struggling out there.
“You are worthy and you are not a burden. Anyone who sees you as a burden doesn’t deserve you in their life, and you don’t deserve that negativity.
Get out of toxic relationships and friendships as soon as you can. You don’t know how much better you will feel when there’s less negativity in your life.
Anything you can do to get negativity out of your life, do it. You may not be able to cure your state of mind/ mental illness, but take any steps you can to take the negatives away which may be negatively impacting you.
Bring more positivity. If you notice something or someone makes you happier, have them around more. Make the effort to keep that going, as much as it may be hard and your mind may be telling you that they wouldn’t want to see more of you, try.
Your education doesn’t define you. Results of an exam are just a number at the end of the day, and if you’re determined to get a set of results and put the effort in, chances are you’ll get there. But even if you don’t, that’s okay and there is always a way to get to where you want to go.
You don’t have to go to Uni. Uni may seem like the superior path, but you can get a job, go to college, take a year out, do anything you want. It’s your life and no one can tell you how to live it.
You are more aware of your imperfections than anyone else. You feel self-conscious of them, like everyone sees them and is staring, chances are they haven’t noticed and to be honest, everyone has them. Try to embrace your differences rather than being ashamed of them.
Set yourself goals, you’ll feel so satisfied when you complete them that you’ll want to do them all.
It’s okay to have a bad day, just remember it’s not a bad life. Storms don’t last forever, neither do bad days.
Staying in your pj’s in your bed, not having a shower for a couple days is fine. Just try not to make it a habit.
Try putting on nice clothes instead of joggers and a hoodie, you’ll be surprised how much better you feel in your own skin.
Your weight/appearance do not define you. There is so much more to you the matters so much more.
Your kindness is without a doubt the best thing about you. Being kind is way more important than being pretty or rich.
Spread more positivity, if you feel someone deserves a compliment; don’t overthink it, just give it. Don’t worry about people thinking you’re weird or you’re trying to get everyone to like you. Giving a compliment, whether it be telling someone you like their hair or the jacket or anything, you will notice them feel instant joy about it and it makes you feel good in the process. You never really know what someone is going through and how much those positive vibes could impact them.
You can do anything that you set your mind to, just keep trying.
Most importantly, It will all be okay. “
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